I was intrigued by this piece by Susan Lanigan on restraint in writing. She focuses especially on Irish literature, but I think her ideas apply more widely--about not pulling punches, about not shying away from the emotional. I especially love what she says about scenes of physical intimacy, because it has long made me uncomfortable when people assume that the cut-away or fade-to-black is always the right choice for such a scene. Intimate scenes can be extremely important for both character and plot. It's when characters are especially vulnerable, and when they can't help but interact and react, and when emotional stakes are high.
like Susan Lanigan's definition of restraint, and why it can work when
it does work: "Writerly restraint is no more or less than affording the
reader the courtesy of space to experience the impact of the scene for
herself. It’s about pulling back and allowing the reader to infer,
rather than constantly poking at her with countless authorial
interjections." Yes. And what it isn't, as she notes, is unnecessary distance, the draining of juice and life from a scene, the distrust of emotion.
This is also what I think Walter Kerr was on about in his book How Not to Write a Play,
when he lamented, "We are now embarrassed by the dramatic gesture. We
do not wish to be thought capable of so gross and unliterary a lapse."
And, "In general, we distrust scale nowadays. Certainly we distrust
spectacle. We know that the audience yearns for extravagant event; but
we are inclined to think of the yearning as one of the least attractive
of the audience's characteristics. It is a superficial desire for thrill
... a fairly shoddy form of escape ... [but] I'm not sure that we
understand this passion for excitement correctly. It may be a passion
for reality, especially that reality which cannot be grasped in any
Sometimes, when we think we are exhibiting proper restraint, we are really just holding back.