So often, when people write or talk about failure, it is only to focus on its opposite. Failure was the setup for the eventual triumph. Failure was where the lesson was learned; failure made the victory sweeter.
that narrative, inspiring as it is at times, sets up a certain pressure
and expectation even around failure. Now we have to try harder; now the
success has to be even bigger to compensate for the setback. Now we
have something to prove. Now we pursue, or await, the victory with even
In reality, failure isn't always followed by success. Sometimes that truth is very hard, tragic even. But sometimes it's just--life. It's okay not to win in the end. Imperfection is okay. The journey is worth taking anyway.