Aside from practical critique and information, such as where we've gone overboard with the adjectives and where we've left plot threads dangling, and how to write query letters, etc., what we most need from our writer friends is just their understanding. Our writer friends know what it's like to live with imaginary characters, and how frustrating the road to publication can be. They celebrate our successes and commiserate over the low points, even when the rest of the world doesn't understand why an end-cap is a high point, or why foil on a cover is exciting. I absolutely treasure the writer friends who have been my behind-the-scenes cheering (and cheer-up) section, and here's a big THANK YOU. In that spirit, my Top 10 messages writers love to receive from their writer friends:
1. I know the manuscript is strangling you right now, but you will flip it on its back and teach it some manners. You really will.
2. It takes as long as it takes. You'll get there.
3. Trust yourself.
4. Take a break.
5. You can do it.
6. I'm sorry you're dealing with that! It's not fair.
7. I don't understand the craziness of this business either.
9. Here is a link to the most hilarious thing on the internet EVER.
10. Did you see? Your book made the [fill in the blank] list!
They're not necessarily in order, because our needs change constantly. ;-)